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Fellowship is Sexy?

What comes to mind when you think of fellowship? A little blue-haired lady holding a barrel of mashed potatoes heading to the church picnic?

Decidedly, not all that sexy (though I’m not judging).

Fellowship is one of those churchy words that has lost a lot of meaning through the years, but it’s as important in concept and practice today as it ever was.

5 This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. 6 If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. (1 John 1, emphasis mine)

I’m no Greek scholar by any stretch of the imagination, but I did look up the word fellowship and besides meaning association or community, one of its definitions is “intercourse, fellowship, intimacy.”

He’s wearing his business socks…

Excuse me? Yes, you heard it right. The fellowship we have with the Spirit of God and with each other is likened to the most intimate relationship a man and woman can have.

  • Makes sense when you realize the type of fellowship the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit have. There is no greater intimacy. They are united and one in word, vision, and deed. Jesus prayed on our behalf in John 17 that we “may be one just as you are in me and I am in you.” We are intended to have this same level of fellowship–incredible!
  • Makes sense when you realize His promises, covenant, and connection to all the saints are in the context of family–the most intimate relationships we know.

So pass the mashed potatoes, but fellowship can’t end there. What wonderful depths and truth await us as we grow in this intimacy and grace! Intimacy in relationships doesn’t just happen; neither does sex for that matter (I don’t care what those two teenagers said about tripping and falling on each other). There is a choice and pursuit, and the same is true of fellowship.

Slightly misleading title aside, this is obviously not about sex, but it is about how God has linked us to the core of our being. We were created with this capacity and responsibility.

Do you see intimacy in your fellowship with God and others in the Church? How? If not, why do you think that is?

This post is part of the One Word blog carnival hosted by Bridget Chumbley where this time we discuss Fellowship . Head on over to read all the posts there!


  1. I’ve counted on fellowship for a certain kind of accountability and truth which goes all ways, for me, and for those I know. Thanks for the new perspective to think about.
    Robin Arnold recently posted..Silos observedMy Profile

    • Definitely a great aspect of fellowship! Thanks, Robin. I appreciate it.

  2. “Business Socks”….I saw a skit in church about business socks that was …provocative.

    To answer your question, no fellowship is generally not intimate. it’s surface. it’s speed dating, hand shaking kind of experience.

    Great analogy brother!

    • Thanks, David. 🙂

  3. Haha! “Business hours are over.” Business socks…you didn’t. 🙂

    Way to be provocative, Jason. You did leave me with a new idea about fellowship, though. Thanks!
    Melissa Brotherton recently posted..welcomeMy Profile

    • Ha! Thank you, Melissa.

  4. Nice title to catch a readers attention: You have said it well my friend. fellowship is intimacy, and grace. Fellowship with Jesus, Oh what Joy Devine, Jesus is a friend of mine.
    Hazel Moon recently posted..Fellowship Vs RelationshipMy Profile

    • Thanks Hazel. So glad we have the privilege of fellowship with Jesus!

  5. The answers to your questions at the end: no and no. do I want it? yes and yes. Will it happen? Yes and maybe in time.

    • God always responds to hunger. Thanks Bill for being honest and I’m praying God fills that need sooner than you think. Blessings!

  6. Fellowship has been so waterdown, so minimized that we accept lesser forms of closeness with each other. Real intimacy begins with understanding the Lord’s desire (command) for us.

    A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. John 13:34

    Thanks for the challenge bro’

    • That’s it, Jay! Thank you. Of faith, hope, and love--the greatest is love.

  7. I think “intimacy” is absolutely the best definition of what’s meant by “fellowship” — walls down, heart open, a kind of deliberate stepping into vulnerability. Good post, Jason.
    Glynn recently posted..The Unplanned Christmas Visitor- A Ghost StoryMy Profile

    • Sad how few even know to expect intimacy or how to achieve it. That vulnerability is the key. Thanks Glynn.

  8. I love your provocative title! So many times we read a word like “fellowship” and apply our 21st century meaning to it. Going back to the Greek & Aramaic writings definitely put the context back into the word’s original intent. Intimacy is the best picture of fellowship -- as you rightly pointed out -- for both the Father and Son, and our relationship as believers to Jesus. Thanks for a great post -- I really enjoyed reading it!

    (Heb. 10:23)

    • Thank you, Deborah. I appreciate it!

  9. I love this. Our relationship with God should be intimate beyond our deepest relationship and acts with each other! And I just love that you called it sexy!
    Jake recently posted..Fellowship of the Ridiculous TheologiansMy Profile

    • Just doing my part to engage the conversation. 🙂

      Thanks Jake.

  10. What a great reminder. Meaningful fellowship is ALWAYS intentional.
    mo recently posted..173- Knock-offsMy Profile

    • Thanks Mo.

  11. I have come to experience a degree of intimacy in my fellowship with God… As far as with other believers, not so much. I feel closer and more intimate with some of you in my blogging community than I do with some in my church.
    Dusty Rayburn recently posted..In the Word- Surrounded by Anti-ChristsMy Profile

    • There are not a lot, but there are some in our church where I would say there’s intimacy. I believe it’s growing too as we nurture it. I appreciate as well the blogging community that allows us to intimately share and support. It’s a wonderful God-thing. Thanks Dusty!

  12. That’s why they’re called business socks

    • 🙂

  13. Excellent. We too often rob fellowship of its deeper meanings. It definitely is more than mashed potatoes (although those are good too!). Thanks for being gutsy to point out the intimacy of fellowship.

    • Not going to lie, it’s kind of fun to challenge some of these things. 🙂 Thanks for your thoughts, Lisa. I appreciate it.

  14. Wow! I think this is the best post ever. I just love it. Thank you for writing this. This blessed my heart. I’m writing this while I hear Shawn McDonald sing “Beautiful”. It’s amazing and I realize that it’s not possible to have fellowship with God if there is no intimacy.

    • Thanks Ani! Fellowship without intimacy lacks the true joy of what God purposed to give us in relationship. He spilled His blood so we don’t have to live that way…

  15. I’ve been blessed in our church by being given some wonderful sisters and brothers from the Lord… respect, care, concern, appreciation, acceptance, love. And, in a couple of cases, true intimacy in conversation and sharing life’s situations so we can support each other in a foundational manner.

    Good sharing.
    Joanne Norton recently posted..Fellowship SongMy Profile

    • It’s such a joy and it’s what God intends for us. Thank you Joanne. I appreciate your thoughts here.


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