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He Loves You the Same

newbornMy wife and I were having a conversation recently about a question we get fairly often. As we have adopted three children and have had one naturally, many want to know,

“Do you love the adopted the same way as the natural?
Do you treat them differently?”

Andrea definitely hears the question more than I do and most recently her response was, “If a bus was coming to crush any of my kids, I would jump in the way to try to save them.”

We then talked about how so many in the Body of Christ don’t understand adoption. Because of this, how can they understand the love of the Father fully?

You may celebrate that scripture calls you adopted, while secretly wondering if He truly loves you or simply tolerates you. Does He feel obligated to keep you around or does He enjoy and delight in you?

I know if I, being an okay father at best, can love these children as my own and see no separation between them and my natural son then God, the best Father, sees you as His own. You can say, “Of course, when He looks at me He sees Jesus because of His blood and sacrifice.” I believe that’s true, but He also sees and loves you.

You are not an orphan simply living in a permanent house; you are a true son beloved and accepted, cherished by your Father.

Jesus prayed,

“O righteous Father, although the world has not known You, yet I have known You; and these have known that You sent Me; and I have made Your name known to them, and will make it known, so that the love with which You loved Me may be in them, and I in them.” –John 17:25-26

The same love with which the Father loved Jesus is in you. He is for you. He doesn’t treat you differently. In fact, if you will receive it, He treats you the same as He treats Jesus.

The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, heirs also, heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him so that we may also be glorified with Him. –Romans 8:16-17

It’s not to earn love that you suffer and are glorified. It’s because you understand your place as an heir. Every bump in the road is not proof that He doesn’t love you. There’s something greater in store.

Below is a song called, “Good, Good Father” by Housefires. It’s such a wonderful reminder of the goodness of our God and how much He loves. Let His love and grace wash over you…

You’re a good, good Father
It’s who You are, it’s who You are, it’s who You are
And I’m loved by You
It’s who I am, it’s who I am, it’s who I am

Read full lyrics here

Have you ever felt like this or wondered if God saw you differently? Do you wonder if adopted children would be loved or treated differently?

Whispers and Shouts #36.

…a short burst of inspiration of what God is speaking to me, a prayer, a quote, a song, or whatever else.



  1. The same love with which the Father loved Jesus is in you. He is for you. He doesn’t treat you differently. In fact, if you will receive it, He treats you the same as He treats Jesus. Love these few line Jason, much wisdom.

    • 🙂 Thank you, Betty. That’s a great encouragement!

  2. Thanks jason for a greater understanding of adoption. I will be preaching on Gal.4 in a couple months and it will be important to know more.
    Bill (cycelguy) recently posted..GrindstoneMy Profile

    • I’ve gotten such a different perspective on adoption with our kids. Even feeling a little of the Father’s love or what He feels as an orphan struggles with a new identity--it’s powerful. Blessings to you, Bill! Thank you.

  3. This post made me think how much my husband loves his two granddaughters even though, biologically, they’re not related. And we are all God’s children, adopted through His grace. Blessings, Jason!
    Martha Orlando recently posted..The Work of Human HandsMy Profile

    • Amen. Love is a beautiful and wonderful thing! Thank you, Martha.

  4. Amen! Oh, I could just shout it! Amen! Our youngest of three is adopted. You said it perfectly! In fact, whenever I mentioned that she was adopted it was not to make her different from our other children, it was because I was overwhelmed by the blessing that I could be her mother. Adopted and loved . . . we are so very blessed!
    Deb Wolf recently posted..The Best Answer for Your Not Good EnoughMy Profile

    • Yes, totally understand. It’s so humbling and overwhelming. We are blessed! Thank you, Deb.

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