I’m Not Popular
I never have been actually. It’s not that I don’t have friends, but it’s always been a smaller group of close friends instead of 100 people.
I don’t have the charisma that makes everyone fall silent or gravitate toward me when I enter a room (virtual or “real”). I don’t command attention with my physical presence.
This blog is no exception. There have been times where I had more visitors and more subscribers and times I’ve had fewer, but I’ve never inspired a rabid “fan base” that would follow me anywhere. People come and people go for the most part.
Not that I haven’t tried to build something. I’ve read posts from other bloggers–“popular bloggers, of course– who shared with me the secrets of crafting your posts and presenting your blog so that everyone comments, subscribes, buys your e-book, and washes your car (maybe not the last one).
There’s nothing wrong with that–reaching more people and expanding your influence. I didn’t take all their advice, but I took what I could. In the end though, I felt kind of ragged and rundown.
As long as I would keep it all up and going a mile a minute, I would see some slight results (nothing drastic), but once or if I stopped, I would see an immediate decline.
I’ve come to the conclusion that besides not acting popular, I don’t think like a popular person.
I know you’re supposed to be topical–like weigh in on the royal wedding or the death of Osama Bin Laden, but I rarely even consider writing about such events (and I’m not saying that those who do are only trying to be popular). The problem is I’ve too many times equated popularity with perfection or as my goal. That’s in life, in blogging, or anything else. But I’ve worked like a maniac before and still not become popular. That perfectionist streak can throw me off quickly. It’s not realistic.
What happens is that my sense of worth inevitably gets tied up in how ‘successful’ this project or that project is. For biblical self-worth, we need to see ourselves, others, and God correctly.
4 Just as our bodies have many parts and each part has a special function, 5 so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. –Romans 12:4-5 (Emphasis Mine)
If you’re the kind of person who attracts people in life or to your blog without even trying then God bless you. There have been times in my life (and probably again later) where I’ve been jealous of you for this, but it doesn’t change what God has called me to do or be (or you).
We do all belong to each other. Nowhere in scripture does it indicate that the pastor with the biggest church wins, the bloggers with the most subscribers overcomes, the person with the most influence in business receives God’s best.
I already won, overcame, and received God’s best. Nothing can change that. I may never be popular by anyone’s standards, but I know God has touched people’s lives as I share mine and that’s all I can hope for.
I want excellence in all these things, but I can’t achieve something I’m not made to be. I’m not popular, and maybe for the first time, I’m really fine with it.
How about you? Are you the popular person or have you tried to be? What’s the result? Do you think everyone can be popular with hard work or do some just have a different calling/mindset?
Over at Faith Barista, Bonnie Gray is hosting a blog-and-comment discussion of “keeping faith fresh.” This week’s discussion is on dealing with perfectionism.