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Proper Care & Feeding of Your Ego

An ego is a very common animal. In and of itself, it isn’t a bad thing, but the untrained ego can bring untold misery. You think training your dog or cat is difficult, you’re going to need a lot of time and patience to train your ego. Here are some starting points in properly caring for it.

Where to keep your ego:

Your ego will run free if you allow it, but this is unhealthy. Some mistakenly believe that the best place for their ego is always in front and they display it everywhere to defend against any newcomers. The problem with this is that it gets very jealous and will eventually think it needs to be between you and anyone you are talking to. The proper place for your ego is behind you. When it barks for attention or tries to interject, you calmly tell it “not now” and go about your business.

Also, be sure you leash train your ego. You don’t want it jumping up on everyone causing hurt feelings and potential lawsuits.

What to feed your ego:

There’s a lot of junk food out there that your ego will want and seems to thrive on. Some of the most popular brands of food are “I’m amazing,” “Anyone would be lucky to have me,” and “I’m too good for them anyway.” Stay away from these because they lack the nutrition necessary to maintain a healthy ego. They will become bloated and increasingly agitated and unmanageable. After a while, it becomes increasingly difficult for a healthy lifestyle.


Even if you’ve made mistakes, seek out the best food for your ego and be sure not to give it scraps. Look for “My abilities in perspective” and “What God says about me.” These will provide the balance of nutrition you need. Your ego will look better, feel better, and interact with others so much better.

The importance of training your ego:

As mentioned, it cannot be overstated how important it is to train your ego. Those who allow it to run wild and free find frequent messes to clean up and a string of needless complications. You must socialize it with others, but don’t allow it to get carried away. It’s fine for a friend or acquaintance to pet or stroke your ego, but they must understand your ego’s proper place. Once it feels dominant, the problems begin. It will attempt to exert its influence in everything from your work and home to your relationships.

Some egos get hurt or bruised, but this is okay. Don’t rush to save them. Take time and be patient. The instinct is to give them too much attention, but this is not necessary. Keep feeding and training them even when they are hurt (even if you have to take it more slowly).

As with any other beast, the ego can be a great asset and friend if you train it properly and take care of it. The key is to recognize what it is and what it is not. It can’t be your sole means of defense, your go-between for new people, and it certainly cannot be your whole world.

Be watchful and careful and you’ll be just fine.

God “will give to each person according to what he has done.” To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. –Romans 2:6-8

How do you take care of your ego?


This post is a reworking of one written in 2010


  1. Unique way to express this idea. Good job! Very creative. Would be cool to make up a commercial based on this. I just kept picturing an advertisement while reading it. I like this different approach.
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    • It was a fun way to express the idea! Nice to explore creative ways to say things. 🙂 Thanks Kari.

  2. Clever! But how true… The untrained ego has a tendency to bite the hand that feeds it!

    • Yes! Thank you, Floyd. 🙂

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