Real Relationships Involve Pain
Relationships are draining. They hurt. They enter you into someone else’s life and difficulties and pain.
So why do we maintain relationships? Because we also know the opposite is true. Relationships are fulfilling. They heal. They enter you into someone else’s life and triumphs and joys.
I have been in the midst of believing for a situation that involves people that I love dearly. It has not gone the way I had wanted. I believe God always wants restoration, but I also understand that every person has to make the choice to enter it. Without that decision from everyone involved, He cannot start the process of healing and things fall apart.
My wife and I have struggled and been stressed about all this. We have prayed and stood and reached out as best we can. It’s hard not to feel the weight of all of it, and you begin to wonder if any of it makes a difference at all.
As I read Katie’s story from this week’s chapter, I was reminded again that every time I have reached out to any broken and needy person I was joining in His heart and feeling His pain.
From Kisses from Katie by Katie Davis and Beth Clark
Carrying one another’s difficulties is central to the life of Christ, but it isn’t about simply feeling bad or fretting. It’s about believing for God’s heart and will. It’s declaring the wisdom and Kingdom of God into lives and situations.
Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ. –Galatians 6:2
As I’ve seen again, the miracle doesn’t always seem to materialize. Things don’t always end the way you want them to, but the pain I feel on my end is nothing compared to the pain that He feels. Lives are ripped apart. Dreams are broken. I love the people in the heart of this so it feels especially personal, but God shares it.
We attempt to live in compassion because He first loved and reached to us. We feel the pain too, but it doesn’t mean God isn’t there. He is not emotionally aloof or watching from a distance on His far off throne at bad choices and all the suffering. He is in the midst of all of it offering His hand of restoration and truth to the world and to us in thousands of moments and thousands of ways.
He chooses to share both the joys and the pain with those close to Him because of the relationship He has with us. That’s what makes us His friends.
Have you struggled with the pain of reaching out? Has it ever deterred you or do you recognize His compassion in the midst of it?
This is part of our book club discussion on Week 17 of Kisses from Katie (disclosure) by Katie J. Davis and Beth Clark. We are taking a sentence, paragraph, or passage that inspires, encourages, or challenges and writing about it. If you have a response on your blog, add it in the link widget below and be sure to check out the other entries. Also head over to my friend and co-facilitator, Sarah Salter’s blog for another great take. Whether you’ve read the selection or not, please share your thoughts! We always appreciate a vibrant conversation.