The Needs Paradox
Christianity is full of contradictions.
- To live, you fist must die.
- To gain, you must lose.
- To be free, you submit yourself to God.
Most of these are not debated as such, but there is one that doesn’t get the treatment it deserves.
It’s all about you, but it’s not all about you.
Let me explain this because you very well could be confused. There is a life-giving truth that transforms us, that while we were yet sinners, dead in trespasses and sins, Jesus came for us. Not only for us, He died for me. He rose again. I was the lost sheep and He left the ninety-nine to come find me. I was of such importance that He left heaven and it’s splendor so that I would know true freedom and restoration in all things.
It’s all about me, and it’s glorious!
But we also learn that the reverse is true. It’s not all about what I want, when I want it. My desires are to be submitted to His and I honor Him with my obedience. He heals and restores so that I can go and do likewise. Freely I have received, freely I must give. It’s not good enough to say one thing and live another. I must forgive, bless, honor, encourage, lift up, support, and fight for people who have no voice and even those I don’t like that much. God loves and shows compassion to others through me, but it’s His grace that promotes this in my life.
It’s not about me, and that’s a good thing.
Here is the question i want to pose though, are we 100% using these at the right time? I believe and have seen that sometimes we apply an eternal truth at the wrong time and it trips us up. If it’s not in the heart and mind of God, even His word profits nothing (look at Satan quoting scripture to Jesus in the wilderness).
If you have a legitimate need, Jesus wants to heal and touch you. You don’t need to feign humility and keep saying, “Oh, it’s not really about me. I’ll keep going.” Jesus never wanted disciples who were dead inside. We are crucified with Christ, yet we now live! Christ Himself is to live in us. There are things that stop us from expressing that life and a misapplied truth will certainly cause the hurt to go deeper.
Another problem is that others can use this phrase like a hammer to beat people into place. “Listen, it’s not all about you. You just need to suck it up and move on.” Salvation doesn’t come because we pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and neither does healing and freedom. Don’t listen to lies that keep telling you to move on without dealing with issues. It’s a recipe for despair, discouragement, and disaster.
If you need legitimate help for anything, it’s all about you. Find someone to pray, someone you can trust to open up with you too. You may need to forgive others as your Father has forgiven you. You may need to have grace applied to your failures and shortcomings. Whatever it is, don’t avoid it. Let Him love and change you. Embrace that healing.
When you get to that place of restoration, however long it takes, hold onto it and help others get there too. It’s for freedom He set us free and then you’ll be blessed to proclaim, “it’s not all about me” once again.
It’s a beautiful paradox. What are your thoughts?