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Who’s Weaving This Web?

painAs parents, we talk a lot about choices in our household. Hitting a sibling, getting angry and screaming, speaking rudely–we try to bring it back to, “Why would you make that decision?”

Our kids don’t always like that, but they’re used to it. Our current foster kids don’t totally know what to make of it most of the time.

Just a few days after their arrival, I was in the kitchen making dinner when one of the girls came in asking if she could have a sandwich. I told her it was too close to dinner, but she could have a little orange.

“I want a sandwich!” she screamed and cried faked tears. I explained again, but she kept screaming finally ending with, “You make me so mad!”

I informed her that no one has the power to do that. I get to control my emotions and she gets to control hers. Her decision.

“Stop saying that!” she yelled and stormed off.

Our reactions may be totally internal as adults, but we can often feel the same way as this 8 year old. It’s often easier to pretend that we have no choice whatsoever and people, circumstances, or God are all responsible for our anger, bitterness, and hurt.

When we choose to pick up a hammer and pound down on our fingers—ignoring God’s Word, His will, and the relationship He offers—many of us turn around to then blame Him for letting us get hurt. –Christa Black Gifford, Heart Made Whole

You can weave for yourself quite the web based on bad decisions. You can choose junk food over nutritious. You can choose recklessness over caution. You can choose bitterness over forgiveness. That’s not God’s fault, it’s your choice.

The consequences of such decisions can have a lasting effect–not that God can’t bring beautiful redemption and restoration to you; but even that is a choice He won’t force upon you.

Every day, our powerful God named Unconditional Love submits Himself to the bad choices of His children throughout the world—including your parents, leaders, abusers, bullies, and captors. But I guarantee you, God always has endless strategies, plans, prayers, angels, and supernatural power to get every child back into the arms of love—no matter how far they have fallen.  –Christa Black Gifford, Heart Made Whole

That is the where our hope lies. This is why no matter what terrible choices we’ve made or what choices others made to hurt us, we can rejoice and run to His embrace. He longs for you to come and you’re one choice away from experiencing His goodness.

You may be weaving quite the web, but it’s nothing compared to the web of redemption He’s weaved for Your life and allows you to choose.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you find yourself blaming God for the bad things in your life? Why or why not?

hmwWelcome to week 4 of our book club discussion of Heart Made Whole by Christa Black GiffordWe are taking a sentence, paragraph, or passage that inspires, encourages, or challenges and writing about it. If you have a response on your blog, add your link to the widget below and don’t forget to check out my friend and co-facilitator, Sarah Salter’s post. Whether you’ve read the chapter or not, feel free to dive into the conversation!

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  1. Amen, Jason! God is waiting for us to run to Him for peace and comfort when we make bad choices or others hurt us. He is absolutely undeserving of any blame on our parts.

    • Phew. So true, but we can get so turned around, can’t we? He is so loving and so good. Definitely want to run to Him! Thanks Martha.

  2. Good story, Jason. I can remember having similar conversations with my own children, who always believed we were the strictest, worst parents in the neighborhood. Our oldest now has children of his own, and can’t believe how smart we became since he was a teenager.

    • Ha! I hope I get that experience one day as well. 🙂 Thank you, Glynn!

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